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Your Judgements Are Your Teachers

2 Feb

Photo: Karen Salmansohn

How many times during the day do you interact with someone who does something that bothers or frustrates you, something you don’t like or can’t stand? Is it a co-worker, your boss, the man or woman you order your coffee from, the waiter at a restaurant, your significant other, your children, the pedestrian crossing the street, the person driving the car in front of you, a bus driver?  Did you get frustrated with anyone today? If you did, do you know why?  It might be something major or it could be something small but yet it still gets to you.

People show up in our life to teach us lessons and every time we find ourselves judging a person or situation there is a lesson there for us.  In those situations where we are annoyed, frustrated, upset or angry with someone or something, we are judging them or the situation because we believe they should be different than they are. However there is a message we can learn from that will help us to grow and expand.  Even though I have heard that if you spot you got it, during those times of upset or frustration, I find myself thinking there is no way that I am like that person that is upsetting me. And maybe in that situation, I am not like them, but then what is the lesson? I know it’s a catchy phrase, it rhymes and it is quite cleaver however I believe there is more to it.

We are all mirrors to each other.  When we see something in someone else that we don’t like, it’s either a reflection of what we don’t like in ourself or an aspect that we repress in ourself.  That second part is so important because when we repress something in us, we disassociate from it, we deny a part of ourselves.  If there is something in us that we are holding back or not letting ourself be or do, then when we see someone with that attribute, we judge them and make them wrong.

What do you not allow yourself to be? What do you not allow yourself to do? What emotion do you not allow yourself to feel?  When we begin to notice what we are denying ourselves, it will shed light on our judgment of others.  We will begin to notice that the judgments we have of others are really just teachers for us to get in touch with who we are being.

Are your judgments of others brining to light a characteristic  that no longer serves you or are you repressing aspects of who you really are?

Find your truth.

 

Welcome

21 Jan

Artwork by Karen Salmansohn

I want to take a moment to say hi and to thank you for taking the time to come to My Life Urge.  I know how demanding life is and I want to honor that you are here because you are seeking something more for yourself. My Life Urge is a journey we will go on together, creating a Happy and Fulfilled Life! A life we are excited to live.  A life in which we respect and celebrate our body.  A life in which we unconditionally love ourselves and others.  Not I will love you “if” or I will love you “when“.  And no more listening to that inner voice that tells you that you are not good enough, or you could never do “that“, or that you’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too young, too tall, too short, you don’t have enough experience, you have too much experience.  Whew…I could keep going, but I think you get it.  That little inner voice that we have is running its mouth all day long.  It thinks it is protecting us from our fears, mainly our fear of rejection and failure.  When in fact, that inner voice is not protecting us but instead limiting us from living a life with passion.  We can’t be filled with fear and passion at the same time.  We can’t be filled with fear and be happy at the same time.  The same way it can’t be hot and cold outside at the time because when the hot and cold front meet, a storm is created. Just like when fear pushes up against every quality of life we set out to attain, a storm inside us arises creating stress and drama.  Let’s learn to quiet that voice and overcome fear to create an Extraordinary Life!

I am grateful that we can start this journey together. Everyone is welcome!

Find your truth.